Norway court gives custody of two Indian children to their uncle

Source: NDTV

Stavanger, Norway:  The nightmare for an Indian couple ended after a Norwegian court ruled that their two young children will be handed over to the children’s uncle. The children, with their uncle, are expected to be back in India in a few hours from now. 

The children’s mother and their grandparents, both paternal and maternal, are already in India. Their father, however, is still in Norway.

Anurup and Sagarika Bhattacharya have fought a long legal battle with Norwegian authorities to get their three-year-old son and one-year-old daughter back to the family. During the hearing in the case involving two Indian children, which was held in Stavanger District Court on April 17, the Child Welfare Services (CWS) and the children’s parents and the uncle,  Arunabhas Bhattacharya, submitted a joint statement to the court stating that they agreed to the solution that the children’s uncle would be their guardian. The CWS, which has kept the children in foster care since May last year, made a recommendation to the Stavanger district court that the children’s custody should be given to the uncle and they should be allowed to return to India.

“I am very relieved today,” said Anurup Bhattacharya after the verdict was announced. “I am glad the year-long nightmare is finally over… Hope the children are back soon. I congratulate the Indian government for the excellent work and I hope others in distress also get relief,” said CPM leader Brinda Karat, who had extensively campaigned for the release of the children.

Trouble began when the Bhattacharyas noticed their son had been showing symptoms similar to autism. The workers of the kindergarten where the three-year-old used to go reported his condition to the CWS which began observing the family closely ostensibly to offer help even inside the privacy of their homes. The parent’s interactions with the children were recorded on camera and were analysed. The CWS later concluded that the boy was suffering from attachment disorder which they said was a result of a disconnect between the mother and child; they also said the child had witness violence between the parents.

The CWS workers started then interfering over how their children should be fed or where and with whom they should sleep. They asked the father to take leave from work to help build the relationship.

On May 11, 2011, when three CWS workers came to the Bhattacharya home, an argument broke out with the mother. One of the workers said the little girl should be taken outdoors as the atmosphere at home was too tense, but a little later the parents were told on the phone that their daughter had been in emergency foster care. On the same day, their son who was away at the kindergarten was also taken away directly to an undisclosed location. He too had been put in emergency foster care. A court battle followed but the children have not been returned to the family’s care since.

In November 2011, a family court in Stavanger declared that the children will stay in foster care till they turned 18. The CWS refused to give the custody of the children to any family member. Sagarika’s parents then started a campaign back in India and sought the help of the Foreign Ministry which intervened and got the case reopened.

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Why Norway should back down

Source: The Hindu by Vegard Iversen

There is something deeply disturbing about the superiority and moral authority in the attitude of the country’s Child Protection Services to child rearing practices of immigrants; it harks back to darker, less civil and, one would have hoped, long bygone times.

The ongoing case in which the Child Protection Services (CPS) in Stavanger, Norway, have placed two Indian children in a foster home raises important questions about not only the judgment of the representatives of a so-called model state, but also their lack of respect for the possibility that many questions around child care and upbringing may not have definitive answers and therefore a moral basis for passing verdicts about the right and wrong of a wide range of parenting practices.

In a column in the leading Norwegian newspaper,Aftenposten, on February 17, Professor Nina Witoszek at University of Oslo brought to light a similarly distressing case involving two Polish children, Tomasz and Maria, also forcibly taken away from their parents and placed in Norwegian foster homes by the CPS in Stavanger. Prof Witoszek has seen the case papers and compares the behaviour of the CPS with a Politburo policing and enforcing strict parenting norms at the expense of emotional support and empathy. This case also illustrates how, under the powerful mandate of the CPS, malign gossip can suffice to prompt the forcible removal of children from their parents.


Turning to the case of Avignan and Aishwarya Bhattacharya and their parents, Anurup and Sagarika, there are too many disturbing claims already in the public domain to remain indifferent. Sagarika Bhattacharya, at the time of the CPS intervention in May 2011, cared for the two children, the boy then aged three and the four-month-old daughter, while Anurup was employed in the oil industry in Stavanger. Both parents were deprived of the family networks that under other circumstances they would have been able to mobilise and draw generous support from. Anyone familiar with and sensitive to the struggles of the Bengali or any diaspora, whether portrayed by Jumpa Lahiri, translated on to the screen by Mira Nair or through other literary, academic or cinematic works, would know that South Asians heading for distant shores leave behind and exchange the often remarkable warmth of their native folks for destinations and locals who may come across as reserved, if not outright hostile.

Stavanger, when compared to the buzz, informality and everyday tamasha of an Indian town, is clean, comparatively cold and remarkably uneventful. And one has to be rather unimaginative or just bereft of human experience to not realise that the transition from the familiar to the new and on this occasion very different, carries with it a genuine risk of trauma. Post-natal depressions are common enough in women: add to this the challenges associated with settling down in an unfamiliar culture, the likely social isolation of in particular the mother and you end up with a potential vulnerability that it is hard not to spot. Into this domestic arena of potential vulnerability, then, march the representatives of the omnipotent CPS.

The Norwegian welfare state is reputed to be working exceptionally well for the average Norwegian, including, admirably, families with strongly disabled children. Maternity and paternity leaves are generous and women’s position in Norwegian society is hard to match. These are achievements and exemplary arrangements that Norwegians are rightly proud of and taxpayers are happy (and can afford) to pay for.

There is a catch, however, since for modern nomads like myself, the Norwegian state, whenever it is encountered, is not only harder to negotiate but often founded on logic that it is hard to fathom. And not unlike the behaviour of the CPS in Stavanger, this incarnation of the state can be cold, beastly and more often than not, completely incompetent. Such are the rules and they are not unique. Every year, my retired father has to go to the local police station, document his income during the last 12 months, and write a financial guarantee so that he and my mother will have the opportunity to meet their Indo-Norwegian grandchildren. Indian authorities are decades ahead of their Norwegian counterparts when it comes to making life easier for multi-cultural families like ours.

These are issues that the average Norwegian barely reflects upon and may not even be aware of. Yet, it is against this background, which contrasts with the euphoria surrounding the Norwegian welfare state which is promoted, often with a missionary zeal, that the actions of the Child Protection Services in Stavanger belong and need to be examined.


As a member of an Indo-Norwegian household that on its way from Norway to India had a 10-year stopover in the U.K., for me there is no question about which of these three states suffers from the greatest disconnect to the modern world. This is not surprising. India with all its imperfections and unresolved challenges also with respect to child welfare is, because of its unique experience and history of nation-building, on the path to becoming a successful multicultural enterprise. Britain’s colonial history has had the fortunate side effect of nurturing bonds and cross-cultural understanding that have turned out to be a great asset in an increasingly interconnected world. Yet, even there the murder of the black teenager, Stephen Lawrence, in South London in April 1993 necessitated a reality check — a painful, introspective stop followed by the Macpherson inquiry. The verdict: the recognition that the Metropolitan Police Service was ‘institutionally’ racist.

There is something deeply offensive about the idea that the Child Protection Services in a town on the Norwegian west coast, unlikely to possess any knowledge about India at all, perceives itself the best judge of the interests of two small children of Indian parents. By commenting on eating and sleeping arrangements, the number of toys, whether the parents may have had an argument (and, yes, melodrama is a facet of Indian family life), the CPS has entered a territory where the prospects for reasoning are endless but the hope of arriving at normatively anchored conclusions, as some of my colleagues would put it, is converging on zero. Even more disturbing is the impression of the sense of superiority and parochial moral authority that permeates the handling of this case, echoing attitudes associated with darker, less civil and, one would have hoped, long bygone times.

Two families with small children arrive at Norway’s shores with aspirations, I imagine, of a better life. And how does one of the richest countries in the world treat them? It is hard to think of anything quite as despicable as the humiliation and de facto annihilation of two potentially vulnerable families we are witnessing here. Take a moment to reflect upon what the representatives of our state, the CPS and the courts have done to not only the Bhattacharyas and the Polish family but also our image of ourselves as citizens of a dignified, fair and generous society.

As in the landmark Stephen Lawrence case, there are enough hints of ugly undercurrents to suggest the need for a thorough reality check: an independentinquiry into the mandate and practices of the CPS (say, by Human Rights Watch), a recognition of the need for intense monitoring and scrutiny of the CPS including how cultural diversity in parenting practices and family support systems is respected and handled, the role of the police, the composition of the courts (note that in both these cases, the lower courts threw out the case suggesting there was nothing to answer) and so forth. There is, at the same time, a larger question of how Norway comes to terms with and catches up on developing public institutions that cater not only for pucca Norwegians but have in-built checks and balances that allow for a better handling of multiculturalism and can help to prevent tragedies like these.

(Vegard Iversen is Norwegian, and is a visiting scholar at Institute of Economic Growth, Delhi University)

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White paper on an Indian expat family’s incident with Child Protection Agency in Norway

Issued by Abhigyan & Aishwarya Rescue Mission (AaRM)
Contact: Anurup Bhattacharya,, +47 40433302

The Barnevarnet (Child Protection Agency) in Stavanger, Norway has placed two minor Indian nationals under its protective custody after the lower court ruled in favour of The Barnevarnet’s proposal. The main outlines of the decision were:

  1. The two minor Indian children (boy born 12.10.08, girl born 04.12.10) shall stay in two separate Norwegian foster homes approved by the Barnevarnet until they reach 18 years of age; and
  2. The Indian parents shall have 1 hour meeting for one time in a period of 6 months – six months – with their children

This article, in brief,

  1. Explores the philosophical underpinnings of Child welfare (Philosophy);
  2. Questions the legitimacy with which the Barnevarnet has usurped custody of minor Indians


  3. Explores their rationale for deviating from the norm where Biological parents decide on the best

    course of action for their children (Barnevarnet’s Rationale); and

  4. Acknowledges the actions taken so far by various parties and further proposes more actions to the

    various Stakeholders (Recent Developments and Call for Action)


Barnevarnet’s philosophy appears to be guided by the belief that human beings, for healthy development, need: proper food, security and shelter, pretty much like sheep. For humans they further believe that one should add education and a dollop of vacation in the Mediterranean. If a child is at risk of being deprived of any of these elements then the State should seize custody of the child, eliminate the risk factor and provide for the goods.

Human beings do require all the things that sheep require. However what sets apart humans from sheep is: human beings are planted in cultural soil of a lineage of ancestors.

Human beings thrive on risk taking otherwise there would be no progress. One cannot choose his or her parents. The element of chance goes a step further; parental culture and resources shape the parental vision for their progeny which basically sets the context of an individual’s achievement and long term standing in life. We value and support parental discretion and choice in preparing productive members of the society. We value the diversity that such parental choice brings.

It is mandatory to intervene if there is a threat of child’s access to the sheep elements but the modus operandi of intervention should be strengthening of parental resources so that they can better exercise discretion and choice for their progeny. Social forces in India do not allow the State to intervene before Familial and Social mechanisms are exhausted.

Barnevarnet’s decision seriously fails on our philosophy and values as it:


uproots two minor children from their cultural soil, where they stand to completely lose their Bengali language, bonding among siblings, cousins, kith & kin, religion, traditions, Indian food, parent’s professional and social network, and Indian Citizenship. The decision poisons the Indian minors’ cultural soil even before they have started to draw from it.



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 fails to promote parental discretion and choice and seeks to cast the children in a pre-meditated State’s (a State where the Indian minors are Alien, where they are not eligible for Citizenship, where the minors’ Parents do not enjoy franchise, where they would otherwise be illegal inhabitants after March 2012 ) conception of healthy individuals. The decision kills diversity that we greatly value.

Barnevarnet has fundamentally failed to first clearly appreciate and articulate the Best interest of these Indian minors alien to Barnevarnet’s country and culture.

Instead, in the garb of some psycho-babble canned argumentation, the Barnevarnet has moved ahead with its standardized processes, inappropriate interventions, brute force, arrogance of State authority and disrespect to the minors’ Citizenship and cultural milieu. We continue to explore the legitimacy of their action.


Barnevarnet made the whole set of episodic observations by being present in the home of the parents. They gained entry in the pretext of providing ‘help’ to the parents with their minor boy, mother’s pregnancy and their situation in general. The ‘help’ was not offered through a written letter nor were the terms of this ‘help’ disclosed. It would be a reasonable expectation that the ‘help’ would be confined to solving the challenges being faced by family and personal data collected during such visitation would not be used for any other purpose. Given that, as we explore later in this article, there was very little ‘help’ on the aspects that the family faced problem, it appears to be only an excuse to clandestinely collect personal data to build a case for seizing custody. It amounts to blatant invasion of individual privacy and a State sponsored mechanism to influence and collect children (as per the data from SSB, Norway, almost one fifth of children born in Norway receive some form of child care measures). Barnevarnet fails to live up to the requirements set forth in Article 12 of the United Nations Declaration of Human Rights (UNDHR) that “No one shall be subjected to arbitrary interference with his privacy, family, home or correspondence, nor to attacks upon his honour and reputation.”

The minors have been resident in Norway because of their Indian biological Father’s work. In normal circumstances they would be considered illegal immigrants if they were not to co-terminate their stay in Norway along with their Father’s stay. These children do not enjoy all the State privileges that Norwegian minor citizens enjoy either directly or indirectly in the form of State support to parents. How could a State award itself the right to decide on a transient skilled worker’s whole life based on a couple of years’ of Work visa? It is just imbalanced. How could a State have a policy of not offering citizenship (Norwegian) to such minor children of immigrant workers and yet make decisions that impact their whole life? By sending the children of immigrant worker parent to a foster home for eighteen years is almost like tethering the immigrant to stay inside Norway for those eighteen years. It amounts to a gross violation of Article 13(2) of UNDHR which provides that “Everyone has the right to leave any country, including his own, and to return to his country”.

The minors have not only been taken away and placed in foster homes but also the parents are allowed only to have two meetings a year of 1 hour each. Article 26 (3) of UNDHR asserts that “Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.” Could Barnevarnet explain how do the parents get to exercise their right in two meetings a year? A great deal of education happens in the course of family spending time together, extended family meeting and children getting to know their parents’ networks. The parents are well educated, by any global standards, themselves and fully capable of guiding their children.

In such a circumstance it appears a little dubious – why should the Norwegian State not first exhaust the possibilities of deporting the Minors if their alien temporarily resident (for work) parents fail to follow the law of the land of providing adequate support and care to the Minors? If the parents fail, the minors are responsibility of the country they are citizens of i.e. India in this case. Albeit population growth rate in



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Norway is low and there is dearth of new trained work force specially hailing from minority communities, this does not seem to be an honourable way of meeting that end. Mind you, the minors are not asylum seekers or refugees from a war torn country.

Indeed some Norwegian State resources have been spent on the case in the form of various ‘interventions’ and preparing the court suite. Does that resource spend create a title on the minors in favour of the Norwegian State? The resources come from tax payers’ money and the minors’ father has already contributed towards it. Article 16 (3) of UNDHR states: “The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State”. It is therefore paramount that any State should do all that is within its means to preserve Families and not break them while they formulate child welfare mechanisms. The matter does not even seem to be in the radar of considerations with which Barnevarnet contrives its mechanisms.

Alien minors with incapable parents are almost similar to minors without parents. No body owns children in the sense of the property like real estate but they still are a property in the sense that they provide a responsibility to the responsibility holder, they provide joy and they are future contributors to the country and society. What does pocketing somebody’s lost wallet amount to? If we find someone’s abandoned property, pet or child then the usual legal and civic expectation would be that the finder makes some effort to contact the owner and return the property. If the owner is incapable then property is returned to the next in kith and kin. This is what we do and what we would teach our children. This is our value. What value does Barnevarnet espouse through its action?

Article 25 (2) of UNDHR states: “Motherhood and childhood are entitled to special care and assistance.” As we explore later in this article by providing completely irrelevant and inadequate assistance Barnevarnet strips an innocent Mother of her motherhood and strips the children of their natural family.

Articles 5 and 8 of the Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) lay emphasis on the need for prospecting the child’s roots, identity, nationality, and family relations. Precedents within Norwegian common law also provide for placing the children with the next of their kith & kin when parents fail in their parental duties. Barnevarnet has not commented on the measures it took to prospecting such rights as envisaged in the CRC.

Article 20(3) of the CRC further stipulates that when considering solutions (for alternative child care), due regard shall be paid to the desirability of continuity in a child’s upbringing and to the child’s ethnic, religious, cultural and linguistic background.

In our opinion Barnevarnet has been legitimate in its action in so far as identifying an impending child development crisis (in its opinion) and moving the court but it has transgressed the legitimacy by not keeping either of the following as an option:

  •   offering the parents to make suitable arrangements for the minors outside Norway;
  •   offering the parents to leave the country with their minors;
  •   offering custody of the children to the next of kith and kin;
  •   offering custody to an Indian government / non-government organization specializing in child

    welfare; or

  •   offering custody to Government of India.

    Barnevarnet’s zeal in adhering to its contrived solution of Norwegian foster homes for Indian children just does not smell right. It even appears counter-intuitive if the objective is children’s best interest.

    Barnevarnet’s Rationale

    Irrelevant criteria

    Barnevarnet start with their exposition on the pretext of seeking custody of the children by discussing ‘Family circumstances’. They make a note that the family does not speak Norwegian and have little network



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outside the home. It is difficult to understand the relevance of speaking Norwegian to the case. Stavanger primarily thrives on the international community that is contributing to Norway’s Oil & Gas industry. The place is full of expat professionals who do not speak Norwegian, are here to stay for a couple of years and then move on to their next destination wherever work takes them. If knowledge of Norwegian is key to bringing up foreigner children in Norway then that should be a condition of granting the Work visa. Further they make a note that the family has limited social network (implying local social network) Naturally a foreigner skilled worker’s social network would be limited – this is true of these expat parents as much as it is true of thousands of other expats. They fail to recognize that we are today living in an internetworked world and the social network that the couple is in touch with over the Norwegian borders. Barnevarnet making a note of these aspects reveals that not only it is misguided about the variables it places importance on but its vision is also rather parochial.


The context, within which the episodes unfolded, that finally lead Barnevarnet to mistakenly conclude that they should seize custody of the minors, has a special relevance to appreciating this case. The whole series of episodes transpired between Nov 2010 and May 2011. The mother delivered the minor girl in December 2010 and by the time the baby girl was 5 months old, still on mother’s breast, she and her 2.5 years old brother had been taken away by the Barnevarnet. Pregnancy is a tough time for any woman. Even simple googling would reveal the complexities of pre-natal and post-natal depressions and their impact on a woman’s ability to function and behave normally. It is understandable if a lay person who is witnessing pregnancy for the first time is ignorant about this but better knowledge is expected from an agency that has been appointed saviour almighty of all the children by State. We later see that the Barnevarnet seems absent-minded to this crucial pillar of the context.

One more aspect that has been key to the whole saga relates to the development needs of the minor boy. People (parents, medical community, Barnevarnet, kindergarten) agree that he has special needs but when one asks the question – why – the medical fraternity still leaves it unanswered. There is only speculation about the reasons that lead to his condition. For the sake of simplicity we could term it as Quasi-Autism. Whereas the Barnevarnet is cognizant of the minor boy’s condition, they expect an unreasonable level of understanding from parents in their description of the condition and in their ability to meet the demands of the situation that boy creates as a result of his Quasi-Autism.

According to Barnevarnet parents have described the boy’s behaviour as ‘stubborn’, ‘naughty’, ‘disobedient’ and ‘arrogant’. It is expected that people who are not trained in the science of Autism or similar conditions would only describe what they experience. They would not say – ‘our boy displays characteristics similar to a from Asperger syndrome’. It is difficult to understand why Barnevarnet expected a Geophysicist and an Administration professional to not only to be able to understand, and explain what medical fraternity has not been able to explain but also to be able to react to in a professional manner.


Barnevarnet in their pretext fundamentally paint mother as a person with low intelligence who has poor ability to ‘mentalize’. This is an irresponsible portrayal of pregnancy related depression. The psychologists who have examined the mother do not think that the mother suffers from any debilitating mental condition. One expects more responsibility in use of clinical terms while describing people from an agency like Barnevarnet. It amounts to harassment and persona assassination apparently to fulfil one’s own single- minded motivation. Barnevarnet do not provide a reference to what tool they used to measure her level of mentalization capability. They attribute this low ability to ‘mentalize’ as the cause of Mother’s disorganized manner of meeting her children’s needs.

Barnevarnet are a little more generous in ascribing intelligence to father, they say father has a greater capability of ‘mentalization’ than mother (and probably lower than the Barnevarnet’s observer?). However they add a pinch of salt: they state that father neither has the time nor the tools with which he could



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compensate for mother’s incompetence. They agree that the father has a greater ability to relate with the boy that meets their expectations. It is true that the father has been stressed for time being the sole bread earner and being a foreigner skilled worker. Foreigners do not enjoy the State sanctioned privileges that Norwegian citizens enjoy to create more time to provide a helping hand at home.


It does not require an expert to decipher the aspects on which the family circumstances warranted help. A couple that is parents to two small children fundamentally needs more hands. They need someone who can cook for them, clean for them, baby sit for them, shop groceries for them etc. In the case of this family they also needed help with understanding their boy’s special needs. When work load is manageable people have manageable stress and they perform with their optimal intelligence and skill, when work load is unmanageable people fumble and behave awkwardly. Barnevarnet did not provide help on any of the aspects identified above. Instead what they provided can at best be described as policing and turning the family into observation objects.

Barnevarnet’s help – termed Initiatives by them – was i) Marte Meo measures for enhancing mother new born daughter engagement; ii) Morning routines; and iii) Evening routines. Of these three Evening routines were never implemented because the custody was seized before the time for envisaged Evening routines was reached.

Marte Meo is a jargon for video recording events and viewing them again. The methodology is used widely but its effectiveness has not been researched adequately. One could ask the question: How much analytical re-viewing a mother who has just come out of pregnancy can do?

The morning routines basically amounted to Barnevarnet advisor and observer directing depressed and pregnancy weakened mother to follow a military precision schedule. Get up at this time, feed at this time, reach kindergarten at this time etc. They have been totally blind to the resources that were at the disposal of mother at that time. When all she needed was a helping hand who could clean for her or dress up the boy for kindergarten while she breast fed the girl, she received advice, glares, and disapproval. A simple review of motivation and individual performance theory would tell us that it is no surprise that the object of observation – mother – fumbled and erred in the policing glare of Barnevarnet. The mother tried to avert the ‘advice’ but Barnevarnet either did not understand even the overt cues or were not equipped to provide the nature of help that the mother really needed. Instead in mother’s words they took a personal disliking to her.

The evidence

Barnevarnet allege that mother has a disorganized demeanour. Their allegation relates to her feeding, her safety measures for her daughter while changing nappies and the manner of providing attention to her children. Given that none of the events were disastrous – her conduct could at worst only be termed as fumbling, further given that the mother was not in the best of her health and the fact that she had someone constantly breathing down her neck, the evidence Barnevarnet provide has no validity. Their assertion that the mother has failed to carry out their advice has no meaning given that they did not equip her with resources to carry out that advice.

Another ludicrous evidence that Barnevarnet provide mentions that the minor daughter looks at other people’s faces in presence of mother. Norwegians are stereotyped to be cold in the way they receive other people. Eastern cultures on the other hand are stereotyped to be more gregarious – people from such cultures seek contact. Probably some of that is related to the minor girl’s genetic constitution?

Barnevarnet express concern over 2.5 year old boy sleeping with his father and the fact that the parents had not bought a separate bed for him. This observation points to Barnevarnet’s ignorance and closeness towards other cultures. 2.5 year old boy sleeping with his father is very very normal in many cultures outside Norway. In fact even in modern western parenting literature co-sleeping is advised as a form of



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bonding. In countries like India children up to 7 – 8 years could continue to sleep with a parent, grand- parent, uncle or aunt. Buying a bed was never a problem for the parents, they just did not want to give up their cultural tradition. Even if they were not able to afford a bed, it does not become a cause for action because even resource poor parents have the right to bring up their own children. You could offer a bed to them but they may decline to accept your ‘help’.

They also express concern that the family did not have enough space in the living room and enough toys for the boys and then they mention though the situation improved later. Whether they had enough space or toys is an irrelevant criterion for seeking custody of the children. Children grow up in the space and resources that their parents have and have the vision to provide to their children. Sometimes parents do have the resources but just do not have the foresight to make them available in the right format. If one is on friendly terms one could suggest how parents could change the format of their resources but no one likes to listen to such suggestions from a policing body.

Barnevarnet refer to some instances of shouting and loud discussions among parents and suspected violence on the boy by mother. Loudness is a relative idea. Scandinavia in general is quieter than the busy streets of Kolkata and it’s difficult to be discreet when one is stressed. The suspicion of violence fails to account for need for temporary threat of restraining force while dealing with children. The mother admits to showing boy her slap but maintains that she has not hit him.

Barnevarnet provide another evidence where mother force feeds the minor boy and without explaining what food is all about to the boy. May be mother could have done it differently, we don’t know but it’s a general tendency among some parents to force feed their children and as we mentioned earlier not everyone is a stage artist who can provide a demonstration of ideal toddler feeding to observers.

Barnevarnet refer to interaction between the minor boy and her mother and state that she was rejected by the boy at several instances. They also state that their interaction was better at some instances. Given that mother had just given birth to a girl, one cannot ignore the possible contribution of sibling jealousy in causing boy’s behaviour. It is natural that the mother cannot provide the same level of care with a new child in her lap to the older boy.

Information withheld

The Barnevarnet is totally oblivious to the stress its demands on and pestering of the parents for meetings and routines caused. They do not state how readily the couple went through the interventions with them. Infact the parents state that the Barnevarnet’s team were arrogantly insistent and callous of parent’s time commitments on any activity but meeting Barnevarnet when they wanted and where they wanted.

Barnevarnet talks about poor emotional connect between minor boy and mother but are silent about the various videos and photographs that show the family in a different light.

Barnevarnet is disturbingly silent about the fact that they interviewed the children’s paternal and maternal grandparents, who had come down to Norway from India for taking over the responsibility of the minors. They do not disclose why they did not consider placing the children with the grandparents as an option. After all it is the same grandparents who have produced a Geophysicist that is contributing to Norwegian economy. Even within the confines of Norwegian Law there are precedents that allow for placing custody with Grand Parents in case Parents are unfit.

Barnevarnet’s performance

May be Barnevarnet has done some good to Norwegian society by placing numerous children in foster homes. There is no concluded evidence that these children have as a result fared better generally in life. Befring (2004) reported that it may be estimated that almost one third of the children under care faced some form of sexual exploitation. Clausen and Kristofersen (2008) have found that young Norwegian adults



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from care background (both foster homes and residential care) have severe problems after the transition to adult life.

What kind of questions and complexities these children, who get placed in the foster homes, could be facing internally within them is probably answered even by someone with Psychology 101 knowledge. Children of the German soldier fathers and Norwegian mothers born during the period of German occupation of Norway during 1940 – 45 are still general denigrated by some as tyskerunger.

Norway considered exporting about 8000 such children after the German occupation was over. A large number of tyskerungers suffered many years of abuse , sexual exploitation , compulsory psychiatric treatment and forced adoptions , which has driven many to suicide. This information is gratis from Wikipedia. Where was Barnevarnet?

NRK a leading channel in Norway reports about Barnevarnet’s organization of a clandestine operation: smuggling back a Turkish child placed in a Norwegian foster home. The child had been sent to a vacation with his foster parents to Turkey. While in Turkey the Turkish court had issued an order placing a ban on exit of the child. Barnevarnet then sponsored a multi-million Kroner operation to smuggle the child back. Leave aside the legal and ethical aspects of the matter, the operation was apparently kept secret even from the Norwegian Ministry of External Affairs. The Barnevarnet appear to be first among equals.

How children fare in life is to a certain degree a matter of chance. Barnevarnet does not seem to enhance those chances at least for many of them. We could grant good intentions to Barnevarnet but something in their philosophy and structure seems to be defeating the purpose. Fact of the matter is any system is prone to errors of wrong inclusion and exclusion. Moreover it is also extremely difficult to simulate the organic bonding and love that families are able to create outside in an ‘all expenses paid for’ type of commercial environment. Therefore one needs extreme caution and a credible alternative before disturbing a family. If the odds that you create for the children are not going to be any better than what they currently have, leave them to their chance in life.

Bringing up children is a job of love; the Norwegian system is fuelling it on their riches. Every foster family is paid half a million Kroners for one foster child, child maintenance and vacations to the Mediterranean. The whole ‘industry’ is supported by child care workers, lawyers, judges, kindergarten workers, health station workers, and psychologists. Without the intention of discounting the good work done by majority of them it’s not unwise to at least suspect a nexus of vested interests that such a system could foster.

It is no surprise that simple googling exposes strifes Barnevarnet has landed itself into with numerous countries – Poland, Russia, Turkey, Sri Lanka, etc. Why does a country that has otherwise strict immigration norms show such eagerness to take over custody of foreigner children? Why not just send them back? Should we understand that the actions are genuinely driven by an innate desire to be a good son of God? What message does one draw? To do a noble deed and help someone in need? What do we say to the hapless voyager who may get trapped in a snow storm near the North Pole? Leave the kids back home, dear? According to a 2011 report by the Norwegian Statistic Central Bureau, children from immigrant parents have a three-time greater likelihood of being removed from their homes than other children. How many immigrant families have been enrolled as foster families?

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infants and toddlers is a valid predictor of their life-long standing. Children everywhere are content without the bitter medicine. Are they developing because of Barnevarnet? Or with time, when things would have become easier for parents, they would have developed irrespective of Barnevarnet? They have already lost their language, their religion, their food, acquaintance of their loved ones, so whose metrics of development are they climbing?

Recent Developments and Call for Action

The case of hapless Minors has received overwhelming coverage in the Indian media. People are astonished; they are outraged that someone could even think of taking such an action. There have been street protests in Kolkata and almost all leading Indian newspapers and TV channels have covered the incident. The UN shares this astonishment. As reported in NDTV, a 2005 UN report criticised Norway for the number of children that the State placed in foster homes, disrupting organic family structures.

The case has also received coverage in Norwegian media, where Barnevarnet’s insensitivity and whimsical interpretation of laws has been criticised. Understandably the coverage has not been as wide as in the Indian media. There was a Polish case, a Russian case, a Turkish case and now an Indian case. It’s business as usual.

Government of India has woken up after a long time. The children were moved to foster care in May 2011. Understandably no one wants to cause a raucous in diplomatic circles over trifles. However earlier low- profile attempts by India were completely cold shouldered by Norwegian authorities. Then, the President sensitised the Government and the Indian Minister of External Affairs has had conversation with his counterpart.

As per latest reports in Media, press release, Barnevarnet Stavanger has called, foster-care ruling grounds explained by Indian parents to the media, as bluffs. Instead Barnevarnet assert a serious case of neglect. Our independent analyses, of Barnevarnet’s allegation document as presented in this article earlier, offers a different conclusion. It is not true that there is no mention of feeding habits or sleeping arrangements in the allegation document. It is true that the variables that have been chosen to present in allegation document provide a means to infer possible prejudices. It is also true that some clinical terms and canned psychology has been used insincerely and in gross violation of human rights.

Finally, on 25th January 2012, Barnevarnet has given indications that they would be willing to offer custody to the children’s Uncle. There are talks about a tripartite agreement between Norway, India and the Indian expat couple. It is hoped that this episode will come to an end soon. However, as we discuss next, the issue remains far from being solved.


There is a clear deficit between the text and context of CRC. The CRC by itself has not resulted in protection of the rights of the Child in all situations. There is a need to recognize the complexities of rapidly globalizing world and enhancing appreciation, respect and tolerance of diversity that Earth houses. Actions well within the borders of countries have oversees implications. While it is natural that, law of any land should draw from the typicality of its socio-eco-cultural milieu, it should not be inflexible to accommodate variety.

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child-neglect case brings to fore but at least the case of ‘minors of immigrant workers’ does not sound to be that unique.

In fact, CRC in its 53rd session (11-29 January 2010) concludes for Norway “The Committee is nevertheless concerned that the principle of primary consideration of the best interests of the child is not yet applied in all areas affecting children, such as child custody cases and immigration cases…” Barnevarnet’s declared plan of possibly applying for the children’s residence permit on Humanitarian Grounds, seems to be a live reflection of the CRC’s concern. In fact such a move would be equivalent to declaring India as a country not fit to offer protection to its minor citizens.


Barnevarnet should first articulate the Best interest of minors of temporary immigrant skilled worker parents. This articulation should be sensitive to the fact that temporary immigrant children come from cultural milieus that are as far as India is from Norway. This articulation should provide references to UNDHR and UNCRC and show how they intend to uphold the provisions enshrined therein.

Once they have identified and made this articulation public, they should propose the steps that they would adopt in such cases for now and in future. Forcing alien minors, who are in country temporarily because of their guardian’s work, to Norwegian foster homes is opportunistic at its best and loot at its worst interpretation.

Eventually they should either seek contact with the children’s kith and kin, or Foreign government / non- government agencies to transfer custody of the children to people who can bring up children in their cultural milieu.


NGOs that concern themselves with child welfare should write to Barnevarnet explaining what they think about their action and how they would have tackled the issue instead. They could seek cooperative relationship with the Barnevarnet and other such agencies and exchange information on philosophy, mechanisms and styles that they deploy in such scenarios.


State of Norway or an appropriate agency of the State should take suo moto cognizance of the present matter and contact India to make arrangements to deport her children from Norwegian soil.

Further they should really introspect the philosophy behind the whole program. Why is there an overrepresentation of Nordic countries in controversies surrounding child welfare issues? How powerful can a state agency be allowed to be, where does its accountabilities lie? Whose interests are they really serving? Is there a reason to smell a possible nexus?


India has taken initiative to contact Norway and seek a solution to this issue for this time. While in some earlier contacts with Norway in this case India used language such as ‘kindly look into the matter sympathetically’, for India the issue is not really that of asking for ‘sympathy’. For India the issue simply should have been to ask for return of her minor Citizens.

What out of court settlement is being reached remains to be seen. There are rumors that the Norway agency might have the rights to inspect welfare of children in India. India should not end up in any agreement that undermines her sovereignty to decide for and be responsible for her Citizens.



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Once this episode is settled, they should go a step further and seek a cooperative exchange on administrative software on dealing with such issues. They should bilaterally establish a protocol for such cases in future. With the number of Indian human resources enriching foreign lands, it is time India protects its interests on this front too. Hopefully the work with Norway would not be needed in other jurisdictions but it would provide a ready blue print, if need be.

They should closely follow the case and expect a time-bound, in a month or two, resolution to the matter. They should forewarn Norway about any attempts by the Barnevarnet to extend the stay of minors in Norway on ‘humanitarian grounds’.

Åtte siktet i narkoaksjon mot Hells Angels

Kilde: Dagbladet

Store bevæpnede politistyrker aksjonerer mot Hells Angels

Åtte personer er pågrepet og siktet for grove narkotikaforbrytelser, i det Troms politidistrikt si tilknytninger  er er en etterforskning mot et narkotikanettverk med sterketil sentrale HA-medlemmer.

«En person har siden midten av juli vært varetektsfengslet i saken i forbindelse med beslag av et meget betydelig kvantum narkotika i Lødingen i Nordland. Også andre har vært fengslet i saken,» opplyser Troms politidistrikt i en pressemelding.

En person skal har vært varetektsfengslet i saken etter beslag av «meget betydelig kvantum narkotika» i Lødingen i Nordland.

Etterforskningen ledes av Troms politidistrikt og er i samarbeid med Midtre Hålogalandpolitidistrikt og Kripos.

«Blant de pågrepne er et fullverdig medlem av HA Tromsø, samt en mann som av politiet for tiden ansees å være øverste leder for HA i Norge.»

Lokale medier i Stavanger og Trondheim sier det ikke er aksjoner mot klubblokaler i deres distrikt. Troms politidistrikt opplyser at ransakingene foregår i Oslo og Tromsø samt «en rekke andre steder i Troms og på østlandsområdet».

Kommunikasjonsavdelingen ved Kripos bekrefter overfor Dagbladet at de bistår politiet, men henviser til Troms politidistrikt.


Politiet i Oslo bistår Troms politidistrikt med ransaking i Strømsveien 222 i Oslo.

Operasjonsleder Ola Krokan i Oslo politidistrikt opplyser til Dagbladet at en person er pågrepet.

– Vi har store styrker på stedet, og bistår Troms politidistrikt med en ransaking. Så langt er en pågrepet. Jeg kan ikke gi videre kommentarer, sier Krokan.

Politet er på stedet med store bevæpnede styrker.

Planlagte aksjoner rundt om i Norge

Konstituert politimester i Tromsø, Einar Sparebo Lysnes, sier til Dagbladet at det er planlagte aksjoner rundt omkring i hele Norge mot Hells Angels i dag:

– Det pågår planlagte aksjoner i Tromsø og i Oslo, og flere andre steder i Norge nå, sier Sparebo Lysnes, som ikke ønsker å kommentere videre før politiet går ut med en pressemelding om aksjonene.

Operasjonsleder i Troms politidistrikt, Gaute Vådebu, bekrefter overfor Dagbladet at politiet i Tromsø iverksatte en væpna aksjon mot Hells Angels sine lokaler i 11-tiden i dag.

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Familie ranet hjemme med vaktselskapet på tråden

Kilde: Dagbladet

Operatøren forsto ikke hva som var i ferd med å skje.

Familiens hjemmealarm ble utløst da ranerne brøt seg gjennom inngangsdøren. Med ranerne i huset måtte familien slå koden for å få stanset alarmen.

– Jeg slo feil kode to ganger fordi jeg visste at alarmselskapet da ville ringe opp. Så slo jeg riktig kode, sier moren i familien. Verken hun eller ektemannen ønsker å stå fram med navn eller bilde.

Prosedyren er at alarmselskapet ringer og ber om passordet som er avtalt på forhånd,

– Veldig redd

– Jeg var veldig redd. Men klarte å holde hodet klart, og oppga feil passord, sier kvinnen.

Da svarte operatøren at feil passord var oppgitt.

– Jeg svarte alt er ok her, forklarer kvinnen. Hun sier at hun ønsket at operatøren skulle forstå at hun oppga feil passord bevisst.

– Jeg kunne jo ikke si at det var et innbrudd og at det sto en tyv ved siden av meg, sier hun til avisen.

– Skjønte ikke et pip

– Jeg oppga feil kode tre eller fire ganger, men hun skjønte ikke et pip, sier kvinnen om operatøren i vaktselskapet.

Hun beskriver at hun til slutt ikke våget annet enn å si riktig passord.

Ledelsen i vaktselskapet Sector Alarm beklager det som skjedde, men sier at de ikke kan se hvordan operatøren skulle handlet annerledes.

– I løpet av samtalen oppga hun (kunden) riktig passord. I forhold til våre rutiner er det en klarering, sier kunde- og markedssjef Stian Veganger. Han sier det er vanlig at kunder oppgir feil passord.

Selskapet vil nå gå igjennom rutinene sine.

Tre menn ble natt til mandag pågrepet og siktet i saken.


Hjemmealarmer varsler bare, de stopper ikke innbrudd

Når profesjonelle innbruddstyver vil inn i hust ditt, bryr de seg ikke t døyt om eksisterende alarmer og vaktselskap. De vet at sjangsen for å bli tatt er svimlende liten. Innen vakselskapene har sendt ut en vekter, ringt Politiet og entret boligen, har sansynligvis tyven allerede rukket å gjøre det han kom dit for, og forsvunnet.

En innbruddstyv utfører ofte hærverk for store summer, i tillegg til verdiene han stjeler – ofte også uerstattelige gjenstander og minner. Mange boligeiere uttaler at det verste ved å ha hatt innbrudd i hjemmet sitt er uhyggefølelsen ved at fremmede har tatt seg inn i hjemmet og rotet i tingene deres, samt all unødig hærverk utført av de kriminelle.

Vi mener at hjemmealarmer levert av dyre vaktselskaper  i de fleste tilfeller vil være en bortkastet innvestering som gir falsk trygghet. Vi anbefaler folk til å heller bruke pengene til å sikre sin bolig bedre ved bruk av sikkerhetsdører og vinduer, tåkealarmer og kameraovervåkning / Telefon varslingsystemer. Dette mener vi er bedre anvendte penger, enn å betale skyhøye måndessæler til et vaktselskap.

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Familiestiftelsen og Arnstein Øyslebø

Familiestiftelsen og Arnstein Øyslebø

Familiestiftelsen profilerer seg som en frivillig organisasjon som tilbyr hjelp til foreldre med barnefordelingssaker, konflikter med barnevernet og barnebortføringssaker. Familiestiftelsens generalsekretær Arnstein Øyslebø er nylig avgått, trolig fordi han er under etterforskning av politiet, etter å ha holdt ei 13 jente skjult for barnevernet. Arnstein Øyslebø har også blitt mye omtalt i media etter en pikant sammenblanding av Familiestiftelsen og en Sex-klubb.

Mye tyder imidlertid på at generalsekretær Øyslebø bare er avgått på papiret, og at han fremdeles driver sin rådgivningsvirksomhet. Øyslebø, som er utdannet økonom, har ingen relevant juridisk kyndighet. Vi vil derfor anmode foreldre som har mottatt råd av Arnstein Øyslebø om å tenke seg godt om, og gjerne rådføre seg med advokat, før de eventuelt følger disse rådene. Dette gjelder spesielt om man skulle bli oppfordret til omsorgsunndragelse eller annen form for selvtekt.

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For å unngå å falle gjennom må man på godt norsk ha gjort hjemmeleksa si. Spesielt gjelder dette når man skal representere andre enn sine egne interesser. Her er vi ved et kjernepunkt i tilfellet Arnstein Øyslebø.

Generalsekretæren har helt fra starten hatt store ambisjoner om å bli familiepolitikkens Bellona. Men ulikt Frederic Hauge som aldri var redd for å bli skitten på henda, har Øyslebø aldri villet grave for å rydde opp. Retorisk har det haglet med store ord som etikk og ansvar og empati og gudbedre. Men alt vi har sett er rot og intriger.

Familiestiftelsen startet med noe de kalte ”firkløver-prosjektet”, hvor generalsekretæren tok seg av noen mødre, mens andre fikk oppleve seg tilsidesatt. Selv har jeg fått mangen telefon fra folk som lurte på hva denne ”familiesplittelsen” egentlig drev med. Flere har uavhengig av hverandre fortalt at da de ringte til det de trodde var en stor og anerkjent landsomfattende hjelpeorganisjaon, kom de direkte i kontakt med Swingersklubben. For mennesker i krisesituasjoner hvor deres familier er i ferd med å gå i oppløsning, kanskje etter utroskap for alt vi vet, må det være unødvendig demoraliserende å bli satt rett over til Swingers.

Man trenger ikke være prippen for å se at denne koblingen er uheldig mildest talt. Men Generalsekretær Arnstein Øyslebø har helt til det siste benektet koblingen. Dette er ganske fantastisk, verdt en studie i psykologiske forsvarsmekanismer. Psykologiprofessor Frode Thuen, hvor er du? Her er nok snadder med sjalusi og utroskap til å engasjere et kobbel av anerkjente samlivsterapeuter: Familiepolitikkens Bellona? Når Øyslebø etter SAs oppslag skal rundt og slukke branner i de nettverkene han allerede har forsøkt flere ganger å skitne til, er det med appell til at ”dette er skadelig for oss alle”. Det har sannsynligvis generalsekretæren rett i. Men neppe på den måten han selv mener seg tjent med å legitimere.

Nå vil han ha ytterligere solidaritet fra enkeltmennesker og nettverk han har vært med på å vanskeliggjøre virkomheten til. Eier denne fyren ingen skam! Det negative fokuset på ”store barnevernsrådgivere” som SA har satt søkelys på gjennom en omfattende artikkelserie, har neppe gavnet motkulturen som heretter risikerer både ytre og indre mistillit. Særlig når en tilsynelatende stor aktør med fet logo ag aktiv markedsføring driter så kraftig i eget og andres reir at miljøaktivisten Frederik Hauge måtte ha brukt dobbelt sett med verneutstyr, skulle han tatt i materien.

Mengder av konfidensielle opplysninger passerer gjennom organisasjoner og nettverk. Hvis man ikke har ryddighet i disse, men som Familiestiftelsen lar papierer flyte rundt uten system og kontroll, kan man risikere at opplysinger kommer i feil hender og kan bli misbrukt. Da Familistiftelsen hold til i Parkveien i Oslo, i samrøre med sexklubben, var generalsekretæren veldig ivrig med å skulle samle så mye saksdokumenter som overhodet mulig. Angivelig skulle han ”dokumentere”, men hva? Jeg sa fra flere ganger om at det ikke er uproblematisk å ha så mye sensitivt materiale liggende, og med tanke på å ”dokumentere” overfor myndigheter, må det dessuten kvalifiseres hvilken relevans og beviskraft ulike dokumenter er ment å ha, isolert og i kontekst.

For Familiestiftelsen var det om å gjøre å samle så mye som mulig, kopiere og scanne, svære maskiner ble kjøpt inn til formålet. Menige medlemmer ble rekvirert som var det heimevernet som skulle forhindre vårflom i Glommavassdraget. Hvor dataene befinner seg nå er et spørsmål flere stiller seg. Øyslebø kjøpte også inn kameraer og annet opptaksutstyr. Hva dette skulle brukes til er uklart. Når man forestiller seg at sexklubber og lignende aktiviteter mer enn i teorien brukes til hvitvasking, at det ikke er helt uvanlig med utpressing og annen kriminell aktivitet forbundet med irregulær sexuell aktivitet, kan man jo lure på hva som skjer når ett og annet dokument kommer på vidvanke, Sammen med en opptakskasett.

All den tid Familiestiftelsen og Swingersklubben har hatt såpass nære organisatoriske forbindelser (telefon, adresser, domene mv) er det ikke utenkelig om det også er løse passord og brukernavn i omløp. Med mindre det er Arnstein Øyslebø som står bak alt sammen, at familiesplittelsen kun er et påskudd til å koble begge virksomhetene. Dessverre gir hans måte å drive sin business på all grunn til å spekulere i slike scenarier. Det kan også være på sin plass å rette oppmerksomheten på hans nære medarbeidere. Sverre Hugo Rogstad er nevnt. Han har også en tvilsom fortid i Foreningen 2 Foreldre (F2F).

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Det jeg har lest i de to artiklene som er ført i pennen av frilansskribent Ole Texmo, gjør meg ikke bare skuffet og sjokkert, men det gjør meg samtidig ganske så forbannet – for å si det mildt. Jeg kan bekrefte at ”generalsekretæren” i den omtalte stiftelsen, grovt misbrukte min tillit ved flere tilfeller.

Organisasjonen Sivorg som fortsatt eksisterer, omtales også i artikkelens del 1. Også i dette tilfelle misbrukte Arnstein Øyslebø min tillitt. Men han nøyde seg ikke med det. Mitt eget og ikke helt ferdige konsept for ekte solidaritets arbeid for ofre for offentlig makt- og myndighetsmisbruk, ble nærmest kopiert av Familiestiftelsen ved den såkalte ”generalsekretæren”. Han skulle bli kongen av dem alle.
Skadene etter Arnstein Øyslebø’s personlige crusaid kan bli vanskelig å få rettet opp. Kanskje var det akkurat dette maktmisbrukende myndigheter ville skulle skje.

Splitt og hersk syndromet lever tydeligvis i beste velgående i ”rettsstaten” Norge. Men! Det finnes fortsatt mennesker som ikke er redde for å kjempe mot autoriteter, og som heller ikke har en skjult agenda som den Arnstein Øyslebø åpenbart må ha hatt. Artiklenes forfatter er den ene, undertegnede er den andre m. fl. Denne saken har stor allmenn interesse, og av nevnte årsak har begge artikler fått passere usensurert. Red.

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Solidaritet med dress og slips

Av Ole Texmo for Samfunnsmagasinet

Oslo. Publisert 30.11.2010.
Artikkel del 1 av 2 deler.

Stavanger Aftenblad (SA) meldte fredag 19.11.10 med store typer over forsiden: ”Barnevernaktivister har tette bånd til sexklubb”. I selve oppslaget på s6-7 er overskriften mer presis. ”Barnevernrådgiver midt i sexklubbstrid”.

Det er generalsekretær Arnstein Øyslebø i Familiestiftelsen det siktes til. Generalsekretæren har lenge drevet sin stiftelse på kant med lov og rett, for ikke å nevne på kant med aminnelig folkeskikk.

Når SA velger sin forsideoverskrift har det sammeheng med publisering av en rekke artikler med kritisk søkelys på virkomheten til ”barnevernsrådgivere som opererer på nett”. Forideoverskriften kan imidlertid være misvisende all den tid det vel kun er generalsekretær Øyslebø i Familiestiftelsen som beviselig har blandet kortene. Familiestiftelsens øvrige medlemmer kan være mer og mindre uskyldige og uvitende om de tette båndene mellom generalsekretæren og Swingers.

Generalsekretæren ble tidligere i år siktet for medvirkning til barnekidnapping i en konkret barnevernsak kalt ”Lindøy-saken”. Aktivistiske former for sivil ulydighet er ikke nødvendigvis galt i alle tilfeller, verken juridisk eller moralsk. Men for generalsekretærens vedkommende er det god grunn til å mistenke at han ikke har satt seg inn i saken, eller reflektert over at han kan sette andre enn seg selv i vanskeligheter med sine handlinger.

Å reflektere over slike etiske problemstillinger som f.eks hvem som berøres av ulike type handlinger eller unnlatelser, er ikke like godt utviklet blant folk, verken hos profesjonelle aktører eller i de motkulturelle miljøene. Min hensikt med denne artikkelen er å høyne bevissthetsnivået hos motkulturen; å skape grobunn for en sunnere organisasjonkultur. Solidaritet uten baktanker og kyniske strategier.

Når det er sagt er det viktig å skille mellom navngitte enkeltpersoner og aktørers handlinger, og legitimiteten til konkrete organisasjoner og sammenslutninger. Familiestiftelsen fikk raskt navnet ”Familiesplittelsen” på folkemunne. Gründer Arnstein Øyslebø reiste land og strand rundt og samlet medlemmer og stiftere. Øyslebø og enkelte av hans nære medarbeidere tusket til seg mailinglister fra allerede etablerte virksomheter som basis for å samle støtte.

For å kunne befatte seg med saker og ting må man være ryddig i grenseoppgangen mellom ulike roller. Jeg har sett på nært hold hvordan Øyslebø har presset foreldre så langt i å gi ham fullmakt til å representere seg på en formelt sett helt ulogisk og ukorrekt måte, at vedkommende forelder fikk psykisk sammenbrudd og havnet på institusjon. Hadde Øyslebø gjort hjemmeleksen sin og forstått hvordan man går frem både rent formelt, for ikke å si hensynsfullt, kunne flere menneskeskjebner blitt mindre belastet. Slik grunnlagskompetanse om systemnivåer er helt nødvendig. Det er heller ikke så dumt å ha sin egen sti ren og fri for svineri.

Generalssekretæren har ingen sperrer for egen kunnskapsløshet. Han kan bruke av stiftelsens penger til å reise utenlands og operere uten mandat i geografiske områder med interne borgerkrigslignende tilstander, i områder og i settinger hvor man nettopp skal opptre meget varlig. Men generalsekretæren har få om noen begreper om etiquette og commom courtesy. Til fare for dem han angivelig skal hjelpe, uskyldige tredjeparter som barn inkludert. Og til skade for ”saken”, både den med liten og den med stor s.

Det fins profesjonelle folk til å bistå ved barnebortføring. Det har Øyslebø vanskelig for å fatte. Øyslebø er visstnok utdannet siviløkonom. Når han blir satt på plass, svarer han med å ville lage en ”cost-benefit – analyse” av den autoriserte oppdragsutøvers virksomhet. Som om Øyslebø selv var  istand til å lage en slik analyse, som om han vet hva en analyse er. Vi har ikke sett noe til cost-benefit – analysen, like lite som vi har sett noe særlig til andre akademisk kvalifiserte arbeider fra generalsekretæren som leder av Familiestiftelsen.

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